On the many places, events, and gatherings I have been I can always spot the person that is not getting all the enjoyment and success out of life that they want. Some are wounded. Some actually have reached a state of hopelessness and despair, they believe that others are more fortunate or have been blessed with special gifts. Some have come to these states of emotion via self-sabotage.
And in most of these case of sabotage the villain is mixed emotions. In coaching speak we call them mixed associations. It happens when you associate reaching your goal as both painful and pleasureful. The solution is to identify and remove the association to pain. In this case no pain, no gain does not apply.
