I am not telling you to watch television, but rather to monitor your Transformational Vocabulary aka TV in coaching speak.
Ever been called a name before? How about a racial or bigoted slur? Has happened to me lots of times in my past. It always got a rise out of me mentally, emotionally, and physically. Sometimes even spiritually. A simple word had that much power. Occasionally some kind citizen may still call me an asshole or an idiot. I just remind them to be kind in a very firm voice.
Just as the words of others can influence how you CHOOSE to feel, so can your own words. For that reason we really want to choose what comes out our mouths. Yesterday I talked about “word softeners”, words that are less harsh or extreme in their meanings to transform raging anger to mild annoyance. There are also “word tougheners”, language and vocabulary meant to encourage or drive a person to greater output. In the circumstances where I assign a meaning of “this is good” I like to say “How EXCITING” and kick the experience up a few notches. When asked the question “How are you?” I always reply Awesome. There is no value to me in a response like good or ok.
