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Secondary gain, more pain – NO FAILURE ZONE
Secondary gain is a benefit received during the process of changing a painful behavior, emotion or physical state. Holding onto this new found pleasure will get in the way of the painful primary change. Example: a person might enjoy the cheerful interaction of a physical therapist while overcoming an injury or surgical procedure. So they […]
What will you decide? – NO FAILURE ZONE
You can decide you want to stop smoking or on being more healthy. The point is to decide on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Next step is to identify what is preventing you from getting it right now. In many cases it’s a belief. A belief associated with pain. I have […]
Vacuum – NO FAILURE ZONE
You have heard “nature abhors a vacuum”. It means that you cannot remove something, like a disempowering pattern (a habit), without replacing it with something else. Everything we do is about avoiding pain or pursuing pleasure, that’s how the brain works. With any addictive behavior the individual is doing both simultaneously which highly enforces the […]
Pumped Up – NO FAILURE ZONE
What’s exciting in my life right now? What about that excites me? How does that make me feel? Speaking on LinkedIn 12:00 Eastern look for the event there. How could we have even more fun today?
Success Conditioning – NO FAILURE ZONE
The Past does not matter unless you still live in it. That’s right, keep playing the “Blame Game” and see where it gets you. At some point you need to take responsibility and grab the bull by the horns and take action. As I recently counseled a client whom was adopted, you need to let […]
Surly Mood – NO FAILURE ZONE
It’s so easy to take a trip down the rabbit hole and get into a surly mood. It is always preceded by some fearful thoughts that are tied to the feeling that I am not going to get what I want or that I will lose what I have. And these, of course, are just […]
Out of Focus – NO FAILURE ZONE
Happy, Excited, Proud, Grateful, Enjoying, Committed, Love These are 7 excellent states of emotion to tap into in the morning. Pick one and tie it into questions like: What am I proud about in my life right now? What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel? Do one set of questions […]
You are going to quit? – NO FAILURE ZONE
WHAT?!? You are going to quit when success is just around the corner. Not on my watch. You are just listening to the wrong voices. The voice of failure. The voice that lies. Have you really given up hope? You only fail if you quit. Invest in yourself. I coach for success – no failure […]
Hocus Focus – NO FAILURE ZONE
Magicians, illusionists, and street hustlers use hocus focus all the time. So do advertisers, marketeers, and the media. ALL THE TIME. You are asked to concentrate or focus on some item, and very often while they also are imparting a sense of urgency, panic or fear on you, some other event or motion is going […]
Did you just Fart?!? – NO FAILURE ZONE
Around people I frequent this is a mental judo move. We have one word for it when we are doing it, “broccoli”, as in “Do you smell broccoli?” This ridiculous type question has a sophisticated name too. It is called a pattern interrupt. Many a parent or grandparent I have helped out when the accompanying […]
