Posts & Articles
Circles of Influence-NO FAILURE ZONE
We all have circles that we live, move and breathe in. Examples are family, friends, work, business, worship, clubs, hobbies, gyms, and more. Some of these circles we may not live, or move, or breathe so easily in. Some of these circles can be described by words like toxic, destructive, disempowering. Some feel that they […]
RE-IDENTITY, Aim it and Claim It – NO FAILURE ZONE
The Greek root “RE” appears in many of our words: redo,replay,repeat, relay, repent. It’s pretty easy to see that it means “again”. Your mind probably saw the title as re-identify. But what I want is re-identity. You see your identity, and particularly your self identity, is of tremendous importance. It literally can change your future. […]
The Power of Memories – NO FAILURE ZONE
In coaching memories are a hugely useful tool for helping a client achieve a state change. Hearing, seeing, and feeling a remembered experience whether pleasant or not results in similar feelings or emotional state in the present moment. As a simple example, you can think about a moment that was really aggravating and feel that […]
The Power of Rituals – NO FAILURE ZONE
For 100 months now, each month, I have written 12 focus questions involving the various aspects of my life: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual (MEPS), business, finance, relationships. Others will have different aspects that they will focus on. There are always two sets of questions numbered from one to six. No more than 3 questions can […]
Defining Disempowerment – NO FAILURE ZONE
We all have beliefs, opinions, convictions, and focus, but what is common to all is our own internal sets of rules. Some of these we were taught, adopted from others, and some we made based on our own experiences. Here’s a silly rule: if you are angry at me you don’t love me. If that […]
Movement and Patterns – NO FAILURE ZONE
We can define two sets of states, emotions and values. There are those we move-away-from as in “I don’t want to feel that way anymore”, these are disempowering states. Then there are those that we want to move towards. In coaching we ALWAYS want to emphasize our moving towards values or states, movement towards empowered […]
More Means – NO FAILURE ZONE
Yesterday’s blog was about means to an end, and I discussed that the end state (an emotion or value) needs to be your goal, not the means to get there. These may shock you, but here are some other means that people will use to obtain happiness: they will get in a relationship, they will […]
Means to an End – NO FAILURE ZONE
Everybody has heard the expression a means to an end. If I add a few more words to the expression, and put it into coaching speak, then it makes a lot more sense. There are two values or states of emotion in the expression. There is a means value and an end value, or end […]
Value- NO FAILURE ZONE
If you absolutely focused on what you valued most in life what would it be that you shall accomplish?
What’s in the Closet? – NO FAILURE ZONE
What’s in the closet? The closet I’m referring to is the one inside your head. If I were to ask you the question what is your favorite memory what would you say? The first thing that happens is that some of you will repeat the question one or more times. The next thing that happens […]
